Where is the Love of Your Life?

Eventually, we understand that Love is the most important thing in life. We are created from love and so it is reasonable that we want to find another special person to share it with. Until we can accomplish this, we may feel as if we are isolated on the planet and that we require another person to make us whole.

The path to finding the picture-perfect romantic connection can be a strenuous one, full of traps, unfulfilled expectations, anguish and even cynicism. And yet, we continue in the expectation of ultimately encountering the perfect person who will make us whole with ecstatic fulfillment. I am here to help you in accelerating that process.

The largest trap on the path to love is the sense that you are deficient and that someone else can provide the missing parts that are preventing fulfillment. If you think about it, though, would you be drawn to someone who considered themselves to be deficient and said that only YOU could make them whole? If you are not charming your picture-perfect would-be mate, this is a possible reason why. The happy news is that this can be simply fixed, once you have the information you will need to look at this clearly.

Another major factor that trips up most would-be lovers is that they depend only on romantic or sexual chemistry to choose a life partner. They fail to understand that chemistry fades after a period of time and if the basic connection is not founded in common interests and supportive friendship, they may be left, ultimately, with not much more than the possibility of separation. That’s why it is so imperative to take the time to really understand each other before even thinking about the responsibility of matrimony.

There are many bodily-beautiful individuals on the planet who can excite you with great sex. Much more difficult to find is an individual who is an ideal match for your qualities and interests. Such an individual does not have to be at all like you but they must hit it off with you. If they are similar to you, you will both take pleasure in doing things in concert. If they are unlike you, you will enjoy learning from one another and, although this can be a bit difficult at times, such a connection can be an exhilarating and worthwhile life-long encounter.

Another snare is our habit of judging our partners by what they DO instead of who they ARE. While you can like or dislike what a lover is doing from time to time, you can only love them for who they ARE. It’s often very difficult for people to make this distinction. If you married a person because they were a celebrity or powerful or valued by others, you would have married them for what they DO instead of who they are. This will prove, in the years to come, to be simply insufficient. Alternatively, if you married a person because they caused your heart to light up whenever they walked into the room or because they were humorous, devoted, tender, captivating or mischievous, you would be marrying them for whom they ARE and you could almost undoubtedly anticipate a long and contented relationship.

There is, of course, a lot more to this business of discovering the best person with whom to share an enduring and contented romance. However, we have just considered some of the most central romantic pitfalls. Now here’s the happy news: Once you have the proper information, you will start to be a person who will be beguilingly attractive to the opposite sex and it should not be very long before you discover the love of your life.

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Bob Gillespie writes on the subjects of love, romance and relationships. He is the author of a book entitled "How to Find the Love of Your Life" This book is available at either

http://inlovewithromance.com

or through Bob's blog at:

http://love-and-romance.inetwyoming.com